Reason #198 – I yell at my kid
Reason #198 – I yell at my kid
Sep 23It is high time I admitted to this: I yell at my son.
I yell at him loudly, and frequently, and frankly rather rudely.
Sometimes I overhear other moms at the park, sweetly chastising their spawn: ”Riley, my love, we do not gouge other children’s eyes out. Now please apologise to your little friend before we take him to the ER.”
Who are they, extras in an episode of Caillou?!
Annoying.
C is beauteous, and gorgeous, and life-affirmingly perfect, but he’s also a (not quite) 2 year old thrill-seeking adrenaline junkie who gets on my nerves way more often than I’d care to admit.
He breaks things, and spills things, and (accidentally) hits me all the bloody time. He takes other kids’ toys, he refuses to get in the car, he refuses to get out of the car, he refuses refuses refuses.
And when he overturns his entire dinner on the floor, or rips a birthday invitation to pieces, or elbows me in the face for the 20th time, I yell.
Oh I yell.
For the love of all that’s holy, can you pay attention to what you’re doing!?
Augh! Must you really destroy everything you touch!?
Get off me! OW! That hurts! DON’T EFFING TOUCH ME!
C! No! I SAID NO! What part of “no” don’t you understand?!!?
Stop! Effing STOP! I TOLD YOU TO BLOODY STOP IT AND I MEAN IT!
I’M GONNA SELL YOU TO THE MONKEY HOUSE IF YOU DON’T STOP THAT RIGHT NOW!!
I wonder what will be worse for C in the long run: the psychological trauma or the hearing loss?
OMG!!! Here I am thinking I am alone! I have always been so sweet to my little girl. Except when I had to be mean. and ive been MEAN . I feel like I am daily telling my daughter, 6, the same things OVER and OVER! i love her to death but she literally drives me crazy. And she is a smartass… which Ive learned she gets from me… I just feel like shes already too old to control and obviously too young to guide into “life.” I tell her everyday shes not a baby and every day she gets older so she needs to act 6 not 2. I tell her I’ll pull her out of school and put her in diapers if thats what she wants. Any time I give her guidance as nice as I can she just looks at me like a dear in headlights and goes blank.. If I start asking her whats the deal she looses it…. I just dont get it… If I cant make a connection with her about this now how am I supposed to help her later?
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Yeah, this is one I can totally relate to. I have a two and a half year old and a 13 month old. If I don’t yell I will indeed put my head through a wall. I’m not proud of it but I’m here to admit it. I’m a yellaholic.
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Don’t feel bad not only do I yell at my 14month old (who knows what I’m saying thank you, which is why she gives me a shit eating grin and runs in the opposite direction) but I also yell at other people’s children.
Like today when I yelled at the five (six?) year old who was throwing a ball off the top of the jungle gym and other children. While originally it was kind of funny to watch him peg them he then choose my daughter, the smallest (well aside from my son), and nailed her so hard with it on top of the head I was certain he had knocked her out.
Yeah so pretty much it end up with me grabbing the ball and whipping it into the pond all while screaming at this child.
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Izzy.0 Reply:
September 27th, 2011 at 5:18 pm
Oh yeah I did eventually check on my daughter, she was just lying on her back doing that silent scream that precedes the most ear piercing wail you have ever heard.
She was just fine…
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ofthesea Reply:
September 29th, 2011 at 9:09 am
Funny how they cry more when their pride is hurt than when they are actually injured…
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ofthesea Reply:
September 29th, 2011 at 9:10 am
Anyone touches C, he or she is DEAD MEAT. Don’t mess with mama bear!
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I used to yell too. My kids are tweens now and you know what? They don´t remember it. Now that they are higher than me and louder, and keep breaking things, my strategy has changed. I laugh. I laugh with them and at them. It´s hard to keep yelling at two boys that can yell louder than you do.
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ofthesea Reply:
September 27th, 2011 at 8:03 am
C is going to be taller than me by the time he’s 9 or 10. I’d better start laughing NOW!
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Wow, it sounds like you were at my house this weekend when you wrote this reason!!! Honestly, do kids have to touch EVERYTHING that doesn’t belong to them? Do they have to fight me about brushing teeth in the morning? Does the 4 year old have to have my exact same personality so that every time we speak, we yell at each other. Aahh, the psychological trauma I am causing…
Thanks for this post, I needed it!!!
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ofthesea Reply:
September 27th, 2011 at 8:04 am
Maybe we should all take some singing lessons, just so we don’t lose our voices too soon!
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Like men, boys need to be yelled at.
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ofthesea Reply:
September 27th, 2011 at 8:04 am
Gotta get them used to it early!
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Awww, your sweet boy! I know, though. It gets stressful being a mother. I have two boys and I raise my voice to them more than I care to admit. :(
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ofthesea Reply:
September 27th, 2011 at 8:05 am
You raise your voice? I yell so much I lose mine sometimes! :(
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Hi, my name is crystal and I yell at my toddler. I feel bad……..sometimes. I’ve started refering to them as my mommy tantrums. My DD is a very smart, strong willed toddler. And OCD. Everything has to be exactly like she wants it, when she wants it, or she completely loses it. Somedays are worse than others. And on particularly OCD days, I have a tendency to shriek like a banshee. The F word and gd-it are my personal faves to throw around. I don’t mean to yell….somedays I just can’t handle crying fits because I push play on the dvd player instead of letting her do it…or put the wrong beverage in the wrong cup..or take out the recycling instead of asking her to do it. And heaven forbid I try to wash dishes or cook without her help.
Wait a second…its starting to sound like I have a willing slave….hrrrrm….lol
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ofthesea Reply:
September 27th, 2011 at 8:07 am
Oh no, I know what you mean: C will trash the house if I don’t let him put his shoes on himself… even though he is utterly unable to do it and i don’t have 45 minutes to watch him faff.
Damn little helpers.
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I could have written this myself about me and my 8 year old. I thought they weren’t supposed to get that attitude until they were closer to teenagers!
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Jo Reply:
September 23rd, 2011 at 11:21 am
sorry meant to comment on Delia’s comment – not that I didn’t love the post!
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I’m a yeller, too, but I threaten with the circus since I have a friend in the business.
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ofthesea Reply:
September 27th, 2011 at 8:08 am
You know all the best people!
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A couple of days ago we were in the car and The Boy was using something in the back seat to hit into the front street and Hubby was talking to me when it almost hit me. I yelled, “If you hit with that one more time, I’m going to bust your butt!” I refrained from “ass”, but his response was, “Mommy, we don’t say butt, we say tushy”. UGH!!!!
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ofthesea Reply:
September 27th, 2011 at 8:08 am
You say “tushy”? I’d make SO MUCH fun of you if I did not admire your honesty…
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Uh… I scream at my children…. Both mine can be a pain in the bums sometimes… My 6 year old daughter had enough the other week. Screamed at me saying: “I don’t want to live here anymore, you don’t love me, you don’t like me” went on for a good 45 minutes…. Dread when she turns 13!
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Sarah C Reply:
September 23rd, 2011 at 4:56 pm
My daughter (who is 6 btw) told me she didn’t want to live with me either. And swore I didn’t love her. I grabbed her backpack for her and packed her things. She still lives with me. I’m excited about her teen years :)
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Mette Reply:
September 24th, 2011 at 1:08 pm
When I told my mum that her can-do-no-wrong grand daughter didn’t want to live here anymore, she told me I used to leave home a couple of times a week saying I was not coming back. Hmmm… I don’t remember that….:)
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ofthesea Reply:
September 27th, 2011 at 8:09 am
Pack her bags and send her over to mine. She’ll be begging you to take her back in minutes!
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I am the exact same way with my 8yr old daughter. She drives me insane! She back talks more then any child i ever seen, has an attitude about everything, whines constantly, anytime we even mention discipline (i.e. Talking her t.v or stereo away, grounding her, or doing chores) she starts 2 bawl like we r beating her. This morning while doing her hair 4 school she starts in with attitude about what she want & doesnt want done like im her personal beautician. And when i say sumthing i wanna do so she does something different she cries 2 no end. So me i say “knock it the heck off, this weekend u r staying in the house instead of playing with your friends so u can learn 2 do your hair your own self cuz ill never do it again!” Not sumthing i shoulda said before school so she gets worked up. Every night she comes in looking like she was rolling in mud. You would think she was a 5yr old boy & i have said it 2 her. It gets old seeing your beautiful little girls face covered in dirt & she is totally oblivious 2 it. And every single day we tell her pick up her clothes & put her dirty dishes by the sink at least, oh & how do u make such a mess getting more food on the table then in your mouth. Every single day & when i get sick of sounding like a broken record i rudely tell her what a piggy she is. So i hear ya on the yelling thing, & i always tell myself im not gonna yell again…yea right 5 minutes later im spazzing. I guess this coulda also went in my moms confession booth huh??
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ofthesea Reply:
September 23rd, 2011 at 7:07 am
Ah, so much to look forward to! I don’t even want to imagine the kid of stunts C will be pulling at 8!!
We all do the best we can…
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